No one said parenting was going to be easy, especially if you don’t know how to make your children communicate. Even though it can be frustrating, you have to understand that they aren’t to blame. Childhood can be a confusing time, and children can end up bottling up feelings and experiences if they think they are not taken seriously. In fact, that may be the reason why your kid is still bed wetting.
To get your children to confide in you and release those pent up emotions, you need to come down to their level. Here are some ways you can do this:
If you are always on your phone, doing chores around the house or bring work home with you all the time, your children will think you are too busy to have time for them. Even if you brush them aside or tell them mommy/daddy can’t listen to them because of something else, they will remember that. With time, they will stop coming to you, and you will miss several chances to communicate with them.
If you are a working parent, you have limited time, but you can still take some time or allocate some hours to your children. However, make sure they have your undivided attention during this time. That means you have to turn off your phone, laptop and even the kitchen if you have to so you can sit down with them and just chat.
In fact, if you want them to remain open to communication, you have to be open to them outside those hours as well. If for example, your child says he needs to talk to you, clear time for them and let them know you are there if they need you.
If your children think their emotional needs are neglected, they will feel embarrassed about their actions, thoughts and traumatic experiences they go through. For instance, if your child split their pants during recess and was laughed at, the shame they feel will be overwhelming for them if they don’t have an outlet or someone they can go to who they know won’t blame them.
Needless to say, if their parents are closed off emotionally or react roughly to a crying, tantrum-throwing child, they will either act out or close themselves off. However, if you show them that their feelings are normal by setting aside the tough persona, you can encourage them to share more often.
Contrary to popular belief, showing your children that you have weak moments as well does not undermine your authority as a parent. Yelling at them may quite them down, but you will do more harm than good because you will just scare them into silence. With time, that tactic will backfire as your children withhold their worries and fears because they think that they have to mimic adults.
However, by embracing vulnerability, you can allow your kids to see that you are just like them. You feel shame like they do, feel scared sometimes as they do. However, due to the support you had, you grew as a person and overcame them. This approach will help your kids realize that their emotions are not only valid but also that they can be controlled without being withheld.
Your child’s wellbeing depends on communication. The key to parenting is realizing that even though you are an adult, you cannot expect your children to understand your perspective. For example, if they are telling you they had a hard time at school or because of a bully, interrupting them will discourage them more effectively than a sneer can, and you may miss out on key details.
Remember, children tend to ramble because they are still figuring out how the world works and how to process complex emotions. So when your children are trying to communicate, make eye contact with them, take them to a spot where no one can interrupt you and listen to their story till they are finished telling it.
Once they are done, rather than telling them what they should do immediately, summarize what they said and ask them if you got their account right. Then validate their feelings so they realize their emotions can be explained and then give your feedback. Plus, make a point to share your experiences regularly so your children realize that they can open up as well without fear of rejection.
Anything from a traumatic incident to a major life change can have a negative impact on a child. Many start bedwetting again after they have been potty trained. The PEEPIYA Bedwetting Treatment Solution from Qutek Junior was designed to help them overcome this problem on their own. The bedwetting alarm teaches them when it is time to go to the loo and also trains them to control their bladder.
In just a couple of weeks, this state of the art bedwetting alarm will train your children to go potty on their own. The non-invasive technology does not require medication. The alarm goes around the child’s arms, and the sensor clips can be tucked in the pyjamas. When those get wet, the alarm goes off, thus alerting the child who can then go to the bathroom before it is too late.
The PEEPIYA Bedwetting Treatment Solution is rechargeable and doesn’t need to be plugged in. It comes with two alarm modes for efficient training and has a user-friendly design that is easy to understand. Prevent embarrassing mornings by opting for this smart solution.